"Life's not about waiting for the storms to pass... it's about learning to dance in the rain."
- Vivian Greene
A co-worker and I were totally amped when we’d made the decision to power walk for 30 minutes of our lunch break.
Excited as ever, I came to work with my walking shoes in tow! So you could only imagine how my smile was turned upside down when we went outside only to find that the rain had already made the decision; we wouldn’t get too much outdoor walking done that day.
But before I could let the rain interrupt my noon-time exercise, I suggested we walked inside the building instead.
My co-worker – a person who has lived in Charlotte for over 6 years and who’s obviously use to the rain – had shown a bit of disappointment at first. But that didn’t last too long. Before we could make it back in the door she said, “Well, it’s good that it’s raining, my yard could really use the attention.”
And that’s when it hit me. It was at that point I had an amazing Ah-Ha moment.
Being a born and raised in Southern California, I can honestly say, I am in no way accustomed to the rain. See, us Californian’s look at the rain as a hassle since it only comes every so often and when it storms, let’s be honest… WE PANICK!
But in the southeastern region of America, most people actually look forward to the rain. You wouldn’t believe the “semi-evil” looks I get from southerners when I “curse” the “bad weather” when it shows up.
See, here, they see the rain as something that is vital to the growth of their surroundings.
And in all honesty, that’s the truth.
Rain may throw a temporary monkey wrench in our day-to-day system, but on a grander scale, it is because of the rain that the flowers bloom, the beautiful trees grow, and we are provided with the water we use to keep ourselves clean and hydrated.
So instead of moping around and complaining about the inconvenience the rain is causing, most southerners look at what “good” they can glean from rainy days.
(This is when my Aha-moment kicked in…)
This same concept can be held as a truth when it comes to us weathering the storms of life as well.
When we go through tough times in life, (storms) sometimes we like to focus on what’s wrong, instead of what can be gained from that particular storm.
We complain about this, and worry about that, instead of stepping back and asking, “What good can I acquire from the stormy state of affairs I’ve found myself in.”
And just like physical rainstorms are vital to the growth of our surroundings, emotional storms can also be moments of essential personal growth that we need to make us better people.
Vivian Greene said it best when he stated, “Life's not about waiting for the storms to pass... it's about learning to dance in the rain.”
So the next time you find yourself in a stormy situation, know that it is ok to feel a little sad at first, but be sure that you don’t stay stuck in this situation for too long or else you’ll miss the good that is to come from your rainy weather.
(The Good Found in the Storm is an expert from my upcoming book “The Human Right of Happiness.” For more information on the Human Right of Happiness, you can visit my website at http://www.humanrightofhappniess.com)
xoxo
Ms. Hite
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Friday, July 24, 2009
I Hate My Job Part IV of V: Employ Your Vocation
[Disclaimer: If you would like to start reading this series from the beginning you may do so by clicking here.]
So now we’re getting somewhere.
By this point your new positive outlook in your current position should be working in your favor.
If you’re on the right track, new amazing and exciting things are beginning to reveal themselves to you, making it easier to not only identify what skills you have, but also what you love in life.
The final step in the I Hate My Job series is to “Employ Your Vocation.”
When I hear the word “vocation,” the first thing that comes to mind is a “job,” a “trade” or a “skill” (vocational schools, etc). However, it wasn’t until I read the book “How to Find the Work You Love” when I had a distinctive “Ah-Ha Moment” and learned exactly what it means.
Per Wikipedia -- A vocation [is] Latin for "calling." [It] is a term for an occupation to which a person is specially drawn or for which they are suited, trained or qualified. (Don’t you just LOVE Wikipedia?)
One of the keys of loving the work you do is to identify what you were put on this earth to do.
We all have a purpose here on earth and it is to – in some way shape or form – offer your “vocation” – or your calling – to the world we live in.
When identifying your vocation, don’t focus on what you have learned to do, what you’ve been told will make you “successful,” or what you are good at.
Forget about the fact that you were told all your life to be a Doctor, a Lawyer, or an Indian Chief.
Where does your passion lie? What are you drawn to?
Why would you want to be a doctor if you’re not passionate about health and medicine?
Probably because such a career offers security and great pay, but remember money isn’t everything.
I’ve listed the questions below to help you identify your passion and help get you on track to having a fulfilling career that you love!
- What do you feel like you were “called” to do?
- What do you love so much that you would do for free if you had no financial obligations or
responsibilities? (This does not have to be a job. For instance, my answer is reading and watching movies)
- How can your passion make a contribution to the needs of the world?
- What steps can you take to turn your vocation / passion it into a profitable career?
In my upcoming book “The Human Right of Happiness” I will discuss key ways to not only identify your passions, but also show you how to turn them into profitable and fulfilling careers that you absolutely love.
For more information on this and other topics, visit my website at http://www.humanrightofhappiness.com/
xoxo
Ms. Hite
So now we’re getting somewhere.
By this point your new positive outlook in your current position should be working in your favor.
If you’re on the right track, new amazing and exciting things are beginning to reveal themselves to you, making it easier to not only identify what skills you have, but also what you love in life.
The final step in the I Hate My Job series is to “Employ Your Vocation.”
When I hear the word “vocation,” the first thing that comes to mind is a “job,” a “trade” or a “skill” (vocational schools, etc). However, it wasn’t until I read the book “How to Find the Work You Love” when I had a distinctive “Ah-Ha Moment” and learned exactly what it means.
Per Wikipedia -- A vocation [is] Latin for "calling." [It] is a term for an occupation to which a person is specially drawn or for which they are suited, trained or qualified. (Don’t you just LOVE Wikipedia?)
One of the keys of loving the work you do is to identify what you were put on this earth to do.
We all have a purpose here on earth and it is to – in some way shape or form – offer your “vocation” – or your calling – to the world we live in.
When identifying your vocation, don’t focus on what you have learned to do, what you’ve been told will make you “successful,” or what you are good at.
Forget about the fact that you were told all your life to be a Doctor, a Lawyer, or an Indian Chief.
Where does your passion lie? What are you drawn to?
Why would you want to be a doctor if you’re not passionate about health and medicine?
Probably because such a career offers security and great pay, but remember money isn’t everything.
I’ve listed the questions below to help you identify your passion and help get you on track to having a fulfilling career that you love!
- What do you feel like you were “called” to do?
- What do you love so much that you would do for free if you had no financial obligations or
responsibilities? (This does not have to be a job. For instance, my answer is reading and watching movies)
- How can your passion make a contribution to the needs of the world?
- What steps can you take to turn your vocation / passion it into a profitable career?
In my upcoming book “The Human Right of Happiness” I will discuss key ways to not only identify your passions, but also show you how to turn them into profitable and fulfilling careers that you absolutely love.
For more information on this and other topics, visit my website at http://www.humanrightofhappiness.com/
xoxo
Ms. Hite
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
I Hate My Job Part III of VI : Money Isn’t Everything
Ok, so you’re working your way out of hating your job by “Loving the Job You Have” but when you think about transitioning into what you really love doing there’s one word that pops into your head.
Money, money, money, money.
Ok, maybe that was four words but they’re all the same. And for most of us, it’s the reason we get up every morning at the crack of dawn and report to work until the boss hollers “quittin’ time.”
There are 2 ways money can affect the way you approach your career.
To read about them check out my blog at http://humanrightofhappiness.com
“The Human Right of Happiness”
xoxo
Ms Hite
Money, money, money, money.
Ok, maybe that was four words but they’re all the same. And for most of us, it’s the reason we get up every morning at the crack of dawn and report to work until the boss hollers “quittin’ time.”
There are 2 ways money can affect the way you approach your career.
To read about them check out my blog at http://humanrightofhappiness.com
“The Human Right of Happiness”
xoxo
Ms Hite
Friday, July 10, 2009
“I Hate My Job Part II of VI"
“I hate my job” is a term that we use loosely and for some of us rightfully so. There’s always something to complain about at a job you despise. Let’s face it. Nobody wants to spend 8+ hours of committed time around people you can hardly stand, in a place in which your career has absolutely no growth potential.
But hating your job is not the answer to your worries in fact, hating your job only adds to your misery.
As I told you in Part I of this blog, there are 5 jewels I plan to share with you that not only help you begin to like the job you have, but these jewels will also put you on the path to having the fulfilling, successful career you’ve always dreamed of.
The first jewel I offer is very simply stated but could very well be the hardest one for you to accept and act upon.
Jewel #1 is “Love the Job You Have”
Ok, ok. I know what you’re thinking… “How cliché!” You’ve heard it so many times before. “You better be grateful you even have a job in this economy, think about all of the people who are unemployed!”
And while statements like the above are true, there’s much more to “loving the job you have” than just appreciating the fact that you’re not unemployed.
You see, in order for us to have a happy life, we have to invite goodness in. We cannot obtain happiness if we are constantly focusing on what is wrong in our life and how miserable our existence in this world is.
The same applies to our work-life and our careers.
If all you can focus on is how much you hate your job and the only thing keeping you afloat is the fact that you’re not unemployed, it’s no wonder your job sucks! Some people might even feel like being unemployed is a better situation… “At least I’ll still have my sanity!!!” (Trust me, I’ve totally been there before.)
But by “Loving the Job You Have” you will create an energy of goodness and well-being when it comes to your work environment and you will begin to appreciate the job you have and the doors that lead to the paths for new opportunities will magically reveal themselves to you.
Here are a few suggestions that will help put you on the path to loving your current job which just so happens to also be the key element to getting you a new one!
- Take pride in your work, no matter how unimportant it may seem. Every task at work presents an opportunity for you to learn a new skill or improve something that is already in practice. This is a great way to add to your resume and your boss may even give you a promotion.
- If it’s a new job that you seek, learn more about the company that you are already with, there could be an open position at your current place of employment that you are qualified for – companies love to hire from within.
- Pay attention to detail. This is a great idea for those looking to start their own business or get a new job.
- Ignore that little pesky co-worker who’s driving you nuts. Remember, they’re probably just as miserable as you are.
- Beef up the education portion of your resume. Does your employer offer tuition reimbursement? Get a degree, or maybe even a post-graduate degree, and let the company foot the bill. It’s going to add to the company’s proficiency and to your experience, and in the end, everybody wins.
These are just a few easy ways you can start “loving your job” right away. I will share more ways in which you can begin to appreciate your current working situation in my upcoming book “The Human Right of Happiness.”
The next jewel I drop is definitely a keeper. And one of the main reasons most people are unhappy on the job they currently have.
Jewel #2 When it comes to your career “Money Ain’t Everything”
But hating your job is not the answer to your worries in fact, hating your job only adds to your misery.
As I told you in Part I of this blog, there are 5 jewels I plan to share with you that not only help you begin to like the job you have, but these jewels will also put you on the path to having the fulfilling, successful career you’ve always dreamed of.
The first jewel I offer is very simply stated but could very well be the hardest one for you to accept and act upon.
Jewel #1 is “Love the Job You Have”
Ok, ok. I know what you’re thinking… “How cliché!” You’ve heard it so many times before. “You better be grateful you even have a job in this economy, think about all of the people who are unemployed!”
And while statements like the above are true, there’s much more to “loving the job you have” than just appreciating the fact that you’re not unemployed.
You see, in order for us to have a happy life, we have to invite goodness in. We cannot obtain happiness if we are constantly focusing on what is wrong in our life and how miserable our existence in this world is.
The same applies to our work-life and our careers.
If all you can focus on is how much you hate your job and the only thing keeping you afloat is the fact that you’re not unemployed, it’s no wonder your job sucks! Some people might even feel like being unemployed is a better situation… “At least I’ll still have my sanity!!!” (Trust me, I’ve totally been there before.)
But by “Loving the Job You Have” you will create an energy of goodness and well-being when it comes to your work environment and you will begin to appreciate the job you have and the doors that lead to the paths for new opportunities will magically reveal themselves to you.
Here are a few suggestions that will help put you on the path to loving your current job which just so happens to also be the key element to getting you a new one!
- Take pride in your work, no matter how unimportant it may seem. Every task at work presents an opportunity for you to learn a new skill or improve something that is already in practice. This is a great way to add to your resume and your boss may even give you a promotion.
- If it’s a new job that you seek, learn more about the company that you are already with, there could be an open position at your current place of employment that you are qualified for – companies love to hire from within.
- Pay attention to detail. This is a great idea for those looking to start their own business or get a new job.
- Ignore that little pesky co-worker who’s driving you nuts. Remember, they’re probably just as miserable as you are.
- Beef up the education portion of your resume. Does your employer offer tuition reimbursement? Get a degree, or maybe even a post-graduate degree, and let the company foot the bill. It’s going to add to the company’s proficiency and to your experience, and in the end, everybody wins.
These are just a few easy ways you can start “loving your job” right away. I will share more ways in which you can begin to appreciate your current working situation in my upcoming book “The Human Right of Happiness.”
The next jewel I drop is definitely a keeper. And one of the main reasons most people are unhappy on the job they currently have.
Jewel #2 When it comes to your career “Money Ain’t Everything”
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
30-Day Challenge!!!
Thanks to an AMAZING picture text message from my friend E, I am on fire about my 30-day challenge!
For those of you who have inquired about my 30-Day Challenge thank you for your interest.
The 30-Day challenge is a concept I picked up from Steve Pavlina http://www.stevepavlina.com . The basic concept for this challenge is to test out a lifestyle change for 30-days before actually committing to it.
This gives you a chance to see if you like the change. Attaining a 30-day goal is much easier than attaining a “lifetime” goal (because it’s only 30-days.) The best part is, if like the change after 30-days then you can continue with it for the duration of your life!
So for me, the new 30-Day Challenge is on! And I invite anyone out there who wants to better their life to join me.
E did last month and I’ve got the pics to PROVE IT!!! (LOL, Thanks E). I don’t know what he picked for his 30-Day Challenge… all I know is… IT WORKED!!! ;-).
So for my 30-day Challenge for this month – starting today June 8, 2000 – I’m am going to eliminate the following things from my diet for an entire 30-DAYS!!!
- Alcohol -- This includes the 2 parties I’m hosting this month (one of which is a wine tasting… uh oh…
- Red Meat -- bye bye to my filet Mignon for a whole month
- Pork -- so long to bacon… Can I go cry now???
- Turkey -- That won't be too hard
Giving up these three foods and replacing them with a more nutritious fare will help detoxify me internally which will definitely make for a better external me!
And I encourage you to join me by setting your own 30-Day challenge. It can be anything! Exercising, drinking more water, eating less processed foods, or even doing the same challenge as me. The list could go on and on.
Also, this month’s Health & Wellness blog entries will track my 30-Day Challenge and focus on detoxification and its benefits in hopes to keep you inspired.
So I take E’s picture text as bit of inspiration and strike out on these next 30-days with the determination and dedication to become healthier, stronger and more mentally powerful!
I would love for you to join me :-)! Don’t wait till “Next Monday” Start NOW! You can totally do it!
xoxo
Ms. Hite
http://www.humanrightofhappiness.com
For those of you who have inquired about my 30-Day Challenge thank you for your interest.
The 30-Day challenge is a concept I picked up from Steve Pavlina http://www.stevepavlina.com . The basic concept for this challenge is to test out a lifestyle change for 30-days before actually committing to it.
This gives you a chance to see if you like the change. Attaining a 30-day goal is much easier than attaining a “lifetime” goal (because it’s only 30-days.) The best part is, if like the change after 30-days then you can continue with it for the duration of your life!
So for me, the new 30-Day Challenge is on! And I invite anyone out there who wants to better their life to join me.
E did last month and I’ve got the pics to PROVE IT!!! (LOL, Thanks E). I don’t know what he picked for his 30-Day Challenge… all I know is… IT WORKED!!! ;-).
So for my 30-day Challenge for this month – starting today June 8, 2000 – I’m am going to eliminate the following things from my diet for an entire 30-DAYS!!!
- Alcohol -- This includes the 2 parties I’m hosting this month (one of which is a wine tasting… uh oh…
- Red Meat -- bye bye to my filet Mignon for a whole month
- Pork -- so long to bacon… Can I go cry now???
- Turkey -- That won't be too hard
Giving up these three foods and replacing them with a more nutritious fare will help detoxify me internally which will definitely make for a better external me!
And I encourage you to join me by setting your own 30-Day challenge. It can be anything! Exercising, drinking more water, eating less processed foods, or even doing the same challenge as me. The list could go on and on.
Also, this month’s Health & Wellness blog entries will track my 30-Day Challenge and focus on detoxification and its benefits in hopes to keep you inspired.
So I take E’s picture text as bit of inspiration and strike out on these next 30-days with the determination and dedication to become healthier, stronger and more mentally powerful!
I would love for you to join me :-)! Don’t wait till “Next Monday” Start NOW! You can totally do it!
xoxo
Ms. Hite
http://www.humanrightofhappiness.com
Saturday, June 6, 2009
Weathering the Storms of Life Part II of II
Maintaining happiness in life is all about BALANCE. Making sure we give everything the write amount of energy for the right length of time.
We need BALANCE more than ever when we come to the rough patches in life which I have best described in the acronym below.
Be open by allowing others to help – Though some fret at the concept of self-help; don’t find yourself in that trap of stubbornness. Using self-help tools like books and blogs is one of the least expensive, if not free (like my blog) ways to find answers to your problems and help you come out of an undesirable situation. Other options for help would be to consult a counselor or psychologist. Don’t have too much pride to seek outside help. It is natural and healthy and good for the sprit! Your family-physician should be able to suggest some counselors that would be a great fit for you.
To read the rest of this blog and find out more about weathering the storms of life through BALANCE visit my new website www.humanrightofhappiness.comxoxo
Ms. Hite
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